People write a lot about the benefits of letting kids be bored. And while that may give kids the opportunity to figure things out, I tend to want to help them when they are uncomfortable - and help them learn to navigate through their own lives.
My family was an average suburban middle class family. In the beginning, my kids went to school just like everyone else. But when it didn’t work out as well as I had hoped it would, we explored our options and started homeschooling. It took us a while to figure out our rhythm and how we wanted to approach learning and life.
But we learned a few things along the way.
When my son first came home from school, he complained of being bored. He had been SOO over-scheduled – if I wasn’t directing him in some way, his teacher was. He got up in the morning, ate the breakfast I had prepared for him, rushed him to get dressed, got on the bus that took him to his next 8 hours, then back home again to me.
His big "say" over his day? He could choose what snack he wanted. That was pretty much it. And then we'd be off and running again. Sure, it was faster... for me. But he never really figured out how to manage his own time or make his own way with me making all the decisions for him.
Once we walked away from the school system, we noticed that my son didn't really know how to figure out what to do in his day. He certainly hadn't had any practice at it!
So we walked around the entire house with a clipboard and he and I identified fun things he could do if he felt like it.
Every room had so many opportunities.
I recorded all these things for him and when we were done, we taped his list onto his bedroom door! You could easily make a list for each room. We called it:
For a while he referred back to it. Then in time, he got more comfortable with finding his own interests.
Sometimes kids say, “I’m bored,” because they need more connection with their parents. It's up to you to notice if this is the case. Remember that no person is the same. You may like a lot of "space," but your child may not. That's not a flaw on anyone, it's just a personality trait or preference. Help the kids find what works for them.
Sometimes kids just need a little help figuring out what they can do with their time.
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