Unschoolers to College – Is That Possible?

If this seems overwhelming and a little scary, I have a mini-course you could grab with a video recording of a workshop I did about building transcripts plus it has a REALLY helpful Workbook for you to plug everything in.
And if you’re thinking, “Uh-oh, I didn’t record anything!” You did take a bunch of pictures - they’re probably still in your phone. And you can look back at calendars to remind yourselves of various events and activities that happened. You can even sit and brainstorm with them reminiscing about what they did, year by year.

Some people create narrative transcripts, while others do more traditional transcripts. That’s what we opted for and you can see a couple of samples in the blogpost and in the workbook.

So once you have the transcript, what next?

The next Worry Hurdle for parents is they fear that their kids won’t be prepared for the entrance exams or the rigorous work. They’ve allowed a lot of other voices (usually from their past but always rooted in fear) to grab their attention. But, remember, if your kids see a reason to go to college, they'll conquer whatever obstacle is in their way. They can do it - have a little faith in them!

3 paths to a college degree:

#1 Getting into Community College

In the United States, our community college system is pretty easy to access. Some states are easier than others. But overall, there’s an entrance exam that teens sign up for. They can usually access a practice test, just to be familiar with the expectations. The thing to remember about these: you’re not trying to get an A on the test. You’re trying to show the college where you are in your (usually) math, reading, and writing skills. Even if the skills aren’t what’s expected of a high school graduate, the community college will put your teen in a class that will cover the skills they need! And interestingly, those classes (whether you consider them developmental, remedial, or just Math 0037) are filled with students who DID attend high school and still need refresher courses based on their entrance exam scores. As my daughter said,

“I had 12 years of doing what I wanted with my life for 3 semesters at college. Now I’m all caught up with all them. I’d say I had the better deal!”

#2 Going to a University

If your teen wants to go straight to a university, they’ll have to pass whatever requirements that university has set up. Maybe interviews, maybe essays, probably ACT or SAT scores. Doors aren’t closed for unschoolers here because they can take courses on passing the SAT or ACT or crack the Review Book and learn the material. The internet offers a variety of options to help with this. But one thing I want to mention - especially if your child is a younger teen - a lot of maturity happens between 13 and 17. Even more if you’re comparing a 19 year old. If you cannot imagine the angst you’d witness to get them to open the SAT Review book, then it’s not time yet. If and when they decide they want to go, that will be the motivation to push through and gain whatever skills they need to succeed. You nagging them about studying is a red flag. Wait for maturity to do it’s magical thing. Engage with them in other more present-day focused interests.

Another thought about why unschoolers do well when they choose this route, they’ve been fully engaged in life. They have interesting stories to share or experiences to write about in essays that show them to be bright and interesting and the kind of applicant universities are looking for! They don’t really want cookie-cutter future freshman… that a large number actually wash-out and reflect badly on the university. They want students that they can see will be successful. Confident unschoolers often step right up for this.

Lastly - and the most common approach:

#3 Transferring from Community College to a University

Way more unschooled teens opt for this route instead of going directly to the university though. A few reasons exist for this:

• Community college courses are less expensive than university level classes. So you may be fine with saving a little money on those freshman year classes, and leave the big bucks for the classes in the area of the major at the university .
• Having a community college “track record” looks good to universities that are used to looking for transcripts. Grades scored in a community college class don’t carry the same skepticism that an A from Mom carries on a homeschool transcript. (One reason I don’t recommend giving grades, unless you have to)
• Students who take their first year at the local community college can ease into the idea of showing up for class, doing the assignments - and still come home to mom fixing dinner or their home life with supportive adults that can still offer suggestions to help them navigate.
• After you’ve completed your first year in community college, you can transfer courses over to the university and enter as a sophomore without an SAT or ACT. Lots of colleges are moving away from these standardized tests anyway, but going as a Transfer Student allows you to skip those tests. Then you can prove yourself within the university classes, and as my son said, “It’s kind of easy. They tell you want to read, talk about it in class, test you on Friday. It’s not really tricky or hard to do.”
• The only thing to watch out for is taking the correct class to be transferable to the university your teen wants to ultimately attend. Certain classes are transferable while others aren’t - there’s usually a table or list of courses that are accepted online.

So those are the three ways unschoolers usually go to get into college. If you think they have to start “buckling down” earlier in their teens so they’ll be ready, that’s simply not true. Remember that 18 is not a magic number - they can start whenever it fits with what they want to do. They might even start by taking a photography course or some other hobby of interest, just to help them see that they’re ready for this next step. But creating some Academic Prep Plan is really not necessary at all. Remember, maturity is a real thing! It won’t hurt to wait for it! And you have these teen years to do fun cool things with them, creating shared experiences and connections that keep the relationship strong.

Leave a comment or send me an email if you have specific topics about Unschooling Teens that you’d like me to cover. Remember that I have a book Homeschooled Teens, where I talked to 75 Young People about their lives without school. So many families have found that reassuring. It’s at amazon and I’ll put it in the shownotes.

So that’s it from me this week. Enjoy your kids - don’t worry about the teen years - and I’ll be back with you next week!