When you’re hear someone say, “Parenting is a Journey,” they’re not kidding!
And when you add in the layer of parenting from an unschooling perspective - wow!
You’re going to be on quite an adventure of your own!
We come into unschooling, thinking that it’s the kids that are going to have this rich fabulous experience - but people don’t mention the growth that YOU are going to see in yourself.
And you may think, whoa whoa whoa, THAT is not what I came here for!
But it’s part of the Path to Unschooling Success.
For instance...
When you start parenting, you may have all kinds of ideas about
When you are a little further along on this unschooling-aligned parenting journey, you discover:
I bring this up because THINKING about this ahead of time will help you when the time comes. When the story you had in your head begins to fall apart.
And it’s nothing to be sad about! It’s about choosing a new story
...based on more facts.
...based on the reality you’re living in.
...based on these children you live with.
It’s like the little animal that outgrows his shell, sheds his skin because it no longer fits.
As we learn more, our old ways don’t fit anymore.
How often have we heard people refer to their child as “Mini-Me?”
But they’re not you or an extension of you or a small version of you. They have a completely different agenda for their lives. And that’s what we are encouraging, right? Not blind compliance. Although that does seem easier at times - it’s not the best approach!
So as you’re clearing the brush on this parenting path, expect that you’ll trip.
Don’t expect perfection.
Anticipate that fear - oh that crafty little devil - will show up in some costume and try to get you to stop clearing the brush, stop moving forward into this unknown territory - and run back to safety!
That style of parenting may not be your PREFERENCE, but it’s the familiar one.
And playing it safe is the only thing that appeases your fear!
So what are some of the ways Fear pops in masquerading as something else?
All of this to say, you’re not alone if you feel like this parenting journey is a tough one! It is!
You’re stepping away from what’s familiar - because you want better for your kids. And that means learning new ways, reframing, changing mindsets, forming new habits.
So when fear pops back up and says,
“this is not worth it, it’s too hard” remind yourself that it’s always a choice.
You CAN always go back to what’s familiar. But also remind yourself that you can do hard things.
And your family will gain the benefits that will come because of your hard work.
Our private membership is full of supportive unschooling moms and dads who have created the type of community so many of us look for! It really does help to see other families figuring out the practical aspects of raising kids and learning alongside them. It helps to see where they might be stumbling and where they succeed - all of it will be helpful when it's your turn to step into parenting kids at THEIR kids' ages.
With ongoing coaching from experienced unschooler, Sue Patterson, we share what's going on, gain answers to questions we have, celebrate together, and most importantly, conquer the fears that hold us back from the unschooling life we want!